The Worthiness Journey: Reclaiming Your "Enough" with EFT

The Worthiness Journey: Reclaiming Your "Enough" with EFT

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "Once I achieve this goal, then I'll be worthy"? Or perhaps, "If only I could be more like her, then I'd finally feel good enough"? If so, you're not alone on this journey.

The "Not Enough" Epidemic

As women, many of us live with a persistent, painful feeling that we're somehow not enough. Not smart enough, not accomplished enough, not attractive enough, not productive enough. This "not-enoughness" follows us like a shadow, coloring our decisions, relationships, and how we show up in the world.

I know this feeling intimately. Growing up, I became the quintessential people-pleaser, carefully trained to maintain harmony at all costs. I walked on eggshells around my parents, afraid to express authentic emotions or displease them in any way. The message I internalized was devastatingly simple: be good, and then you'll be worthy of love.

This pattern didn't magically disappear in adulthood. Instead, it evolved. I continued fearing conflict, prioritizing others' happiness over my own, and sacrificing my needs to keep the peace. My worth remained conditional—something to be earned through perfect performance and making others happy.

The Turning Point

My relationship with worthiness began to transform during my spiritual awakening in 2020. As I explored spirituality more deeply, I started reconnecting with my authentic self and recognizing my inherent value. One of the most powerful tools in this journey was Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), or "tapping"—a practice that helped me begin healing my inner child and embodying the truth that I am, and always have been, enough.

While I'm still healing and growing, I now acknowledge my worth in ways I never could before. And I've gathered these insights, along with wisdom from leading researchers and authors, in my new e-book: "Worthy Now: No Permission Needed."

Today, I want to share one of the most transformative practices from that book: using EFT tapping to release the "not enough" story and reclaim your inherent worth.

Understanding EFT for Self-Worth

Emotional Freedom Technique combines elements of cognitive therapy with acupressure, working with both mind and body to release negative emotions and establish new, healthier thought patterns. It involves gently tapping on specific meridian points while focusing on a particular issue—in this case, feelings of inadequacy.

Why is EFT so effective for worthiness issues? When we experience thoughts like "I'm not enough," our bodies respond with a stress reaction. This physical response reinforces the negative belief, creating a cycle that's difficult to break through cognitive approaches alone. EFT disrupts this cycle by calming the nervous system while simultaneously addressing the thought patterns.

Research published in the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease has shown that EFT can significantly reduce cortisol levels (the stress hormone) and decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression—both of which often accompany worthiness struggles.

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The "I Am Enough" Tapping Sequence

Below is a complete EFT tapping sequence designed specifically for transforming "not enough" feelings. This is the same practice I've used in my own journey and have shared with countless women who are reclaiming their worth.

Preparation:

1. Find a quiet space where you won't be interrupted

2. Rate your current feeling of "not enough" on a scale from 0-10 (10 being the strongest)

3. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself

Tapping Points:

You'll tap gently with two fingers about 5-7 times on each of these points:

• Karate Chop (KC): The fleshy outer edge of your hand

• Top of Head (TH): The crown of your head

• Eyebrow (EB): The beginning of either eyebrow, near the bridge of your nose

• Side of Eye (SE): The bone at the outside corner of either eye

• Under Eye (UE): The bone under either eye

• Under Nose (UN): The space between your nose and upper lip

• Chin (Ch): The indentation between your lower lip and chin

• Collarbone (CB): Just below either collarbone

• Under Arm (UA): About 4 inches below your armpit on the side of your body

The Tapping Script:

Begin by tapping continuously on the Karate Chop point while saying each of these setup statements three times:

"Even though I feel like I'm not enough, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"Even though I've believed I need to be perfect to be worthy, I choose to love and accept myself anyway."

"Even though I've carried this 'not enough' feeling for so long, I acknowledge my true worth right now."

Now, tap through all the points while saying these phrases:

Round 1: Acknowledging the Truth

• Top of Head: "This feeling that I'm not enough."

• Eyebrow: "I've believed this story for so long."

• Side of Eye: "Always trying to prove my worth."

• Under Eye: "Always trying to please others."

• Under Nose: "Walking on eggshells to be accepted."

• Chin: "Afraid that who I am isn't enough."

• Collarbone: "This deep fear of inadequacy."

• Under Arm: "This 'not enough' belief in my body."

Take a deep breath and release it slowly.

Round 2: Opening to Possibility

• Top of Head: "What if I am enough exactly as I am?"

• Eyebrow: "What if my worth isn't something I earn?"

• Side of Eye: "What if I was born worthy?"

• Under Eye: "I'm releasing the need to prove myself."

• Under Nose: "I'm allowing myself to be imperfect."

• Chin: "I'm letting go of others' expectations."

• Collarbone: "My worthiness is my birthright."

• Under Arm: "I am inherently valuable."

Take another deep breath and release it slowly.

Round 3: Embracing Your Worth

• Top of Head: "I am enough."

• Eyebrow: "I am worthy now, not when I'm perfect."

• Side of Eye: "I am complete."

• Under Eye: "I am deserving of love and respect."

• Under Nose: "I honor my true self."

• Chin: "I trust my inner wisdom."

• Collarbone: "I am enough. I am enough. I am enough."

• Under Arm: "And I choose to live from this truth today."

Take a final deep breath and check in with yourself. How intense is your "not enough" feeling now? If it's still higher than you'd like, continue with additional rounds until you feel a shift.

Beyond the Tapping Session

While a single tapping session can create profound shifts, the most transformative results come from consistent practice. Here are some ways to integrate this work into your daily life:

1. Morning Ritual: Begin your day with the "I Am Enough" tapping sequence to set a foundation of worthiness before engaging with the world's demands and expectations.

2. Just-in-Time Tapping: When you notice the "not enough" feeling arising—perhaps before a presentation, after scrolling social media, or during a challenging conversation—excuse yourself for a quick tapping session to reset.

3. Evening Integration: Before sleep, tap while reflecting on moments from your day when you honored your worth or noticed the "not enough" story trying to assert itself.

4. Voice Memo Support: Record yourself guiding the tapping sequence so you can simply follow along when you need support.

5. Visible Reminders: Place sticky notes with phrases like "I am enough" or "Worthy now" in places you'll see throughout your day—your bathroom mirror, computer, car dashboard, or phone lock screen.

A Deeper Journey

This EFT practice is just one of seven powerful tactics I explore in "Worthy Now: No Permission Needed." The e-book also guides you through:

• Silencing your inner critic for good

• Setting unapologetic boundaries

• Embracing vulnerability as strength

• Reclaiming your authentic voice

• Releasing perfectionism

• Connecting with your innate power

Each chapter includes not only the concepts and research behind these practices but also specific homework assignments, common misconceptions, and real-life stories of transformation.

Your Turn

I'd love to hear about your experience with this tapping sequence. Did you notice an immediate shift? What other worthiness practices have been helpful in your journey? Share in the comments below, or if you prefer, reach out privately through the contact form.

Remember, worthiness isn't something you achieve—it's something you remember. You were born enough. Nothing you do or don't do can change that fundamental truth. The journey isn't about becoming worthy; it's about returning to the knowing that you always have been.

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This blog post is part of The Worthiness Journey series, where we explore practical tools for reclaiming your inherent value. Subscribe to receive future posts directly in your inbox.